Why I Don’t Celebrate Pride Month Anymore, and Why That’s Totally Okay
By: A Proud Leather Fetish Girl
Every year, June comes around and the world fills with rainbows. Companies roll out their pride campaigns, parades take over the streets, and many in the LGBTQ+ community take this time to celebrate visibility, identity, and freedom. It’s beautiful, and I fully support it. But I’ve come to a point in my life where I’ve realized something deeply personal:
I don’t celebrate Pride Month anymore.
Not because I don’t care. Not because I don’t belong to the LGBTQ+ community. I absolutely do. I’m a proud lesbian. I’m a leather fetish girl. And I live my truth out loud every single day. But that’s exactly the point. Pride isn’t something I save for June. It’s my everyday lifestyle.
This post isn’t about rejecting the importance of Pride Month. Instead, it’s an honest reflection on how my identity has evolved, how I express it through my love of leather, and why I’ve chosen to live my truth 365 days a year, not just during Pride.
Here are my 10 reasons why I’ve stepped away from celebrating Pride Month in a conventional way, and why it’s been one of the most liberating decisions I’ve ever made.
1. Pride Isn’t a Date on the Calendar, It’s My Whole Identity
I used to wait for June to feel seen. To dress a certain way, speak a certain truth, or connect with my community. But that changed when I fully embraced who I am without conditions, restrictions, or fear.
I am a leather girl, inside and out. When I wear leather gloves, slide into my leggings, or button up a fitted leather shirt, I’m not putting on a costume. I’m expressing my raw, sensual self. Confident, queer, and powerful.
And I do that every day. I don’t need a designated month to remind myself that I’m allowed to exist.
2. I Celebrate My Fetish Daily, Not Just in June
Some people wait until Pride to let their freak flag fly. I fly mine with every zip of a leather boot. I don’t hide my fetish. I don’t tone it down. I don’t censor my desires to fit into someone else’s version of acceptable queerness.
My fetish for leather is not a side dish. It’s the main course. It’s my flavor. It’s how I connect with my sensuality, my lovers, and my body. It brings me confidence, strength, and pleasure. And I celebrate that freely, whether it’s January or July.
3. I Don’t Need Permission to Be Proud Anymore
There was a time when I needed external validation. When I needed Pride Month to remind me it was okay to be who I was. That time is long gone.
I’ve grown. I’ve come out, to myself and to others. I’ve owned my work, my identity, my desires. I’ve stopped asking for permission. I already know I’m enough.
I’m a lesbian leather fetish girl, and I love myself completely.
4. Leather Is More Than Fabric. It’s My Armor and My Art
When I wear leather, I feel unstoppable. It hugs my body, amplifies my curves, and tells a story. A story of boldness, freedom, and sensuality.
To me, leather is expressive. It’s kinky, yes. But it’s also elegant, powerful, and artistic. It can be tough or soft, dominant or submissive, minimalist or glamorous. It’s incredibly versatile, and so am I.
Every piece I wear, from tight leggings to fingerless gloves, is a reminder that I’m living my fetish proudly and creatively.
5. My Sexuality Doesn’t Need to Be Palatable
Pride is sometimes sanitized. We see smiling rainbows, corporate floats, and PG-rated slogans. And while that visibility is vital, it often leaves people like me with fetishes, kinks, and sex-forward identities feeling invisible or pushed aside.
But I’m not here to tone myself down. I’m here to take up space. I’m not here for approval. I’m here for authenticity.
My leather fetish is real. My porn career is real. My love of lesbian sex, gloves, and dominance is very real. And I won’t filter it to be family-friendly.
6. I’m a Fetish Porn Girl, and I’m Damn Proud of It
This is something I no longer hide. I’m a fetish porn girl. I work in a world where sexuality is bold, open, and celebrated. It’s not shameful. It’s not dirty. It’s art, it’s passion, and it’s liberation.
I’ve met incredible women through this space. I’ve built confidence. I’ve discovered parts of myself I never knew existed. It’s helped me grow. Sexually, emotionally, and professionally.
Pride Month often centers respectability, and people like me get left out. But I’m not ashamed. I’m proud. And I celebrate my path every day, not just when society tells me it’s okay to.
7. Leather Heals Me in Ways Pride Never Could
Let’s talk about healing. I’ve struggled with body image. With shame. With being too much or too loud or too sexual. But when I started embracing my love of leather, something clicked.
I started healing.
Leather became my safe space. My sanctuary. My expression. My rebellion. My peace.
When I put on leather gloves or a tight pair of pants, I’m not just dressing up. I’m telling the world this is who I am. Take it or leave it.
8. I Want to Be Visible Outside of June
So many of us disappear when June ends. The flags come down. The support dwindles. The silence returns.
But I refuse to be invisible. I want to be seen, celebrated, and supported every month of the year. I want the same energy in November that we have in June.
And that’s why I show up every day. Leather clad, proud, and powerful.
9. I’ve Found My Own Version of Pride
For some, Pride is a parade. For me, Pride is a mirror. It’s looking at myself with leather hugging my thighs, with gloves on my hands, with a smile on my lips and saying I love you. I see you. I’m proud of you.
It’s not confetti or corporate campaigns. It’s the quiet, confident, everyday moments where I own my truth and embrace my deepest desires.
That’s my Pride. And it’s not tied to any calendar.
10. I Celebrate My Leather Pride Always
At the end of the day, this isn’t about rejecting Pride. It’s about expanding it. It’s about making room for all identities, even the ones that don’t fit neatly into sanitized boxes.
For me, Pride is leather.
Pride is licking my lips in leather leggings. Pride is pulling on gloves with purpose. Pride is loving women with depth, with fire, with freedom.
Pride is my everyday.
Final Words: To Each Their Own
To those who love Pride Month, go out, celebrate, shine. It’s your time. I see you, and I support you. Pride is still necessary, powerful, and healing for many.
But for me, I’ve found my power in living my truth every single day, in my own way. I don’t need June to tell me I’m allowed to be me. I already know.
So while the rainbow flags wave, I’ll be here in leather. Walking tall, smiling wide, and living my fetish life proudly.
To all the leather girls, kink lovers, lesbians, and fetish souls, this is our Pride too. Every day. Every hour. Every inch.
Happy Leather Pride today and always.
With love,
Lovely - A Proud Leather Fetish Girl