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What do lesbians bring on a second date? A U-haul! Here’s the truth behind this well-known stereotype.

As with all stereotypes, this particular question won’t necessarily apply to all lesbian relationships. All humans are different, and every relationship develops at a different speed. However, yes – the joke that lesbians bring a U-haul to the second date is founded on some truth.

 Whether you’re a part of the lesbian community or not, you probably know that two girls in love tend to speed through the first phases of a relationship. In many cases, they skip to the best parts – saying I love you, moving in together, getting married, etc. – faster than heterosexual couples. Could this be because there are two females in the equation? Most likely. 

 [Warning: stereotyping ahead] 

So why, exactly, do lesbian relationships tend to move so quickly? Women, perhaps more so than men, have a strong biological need to feel loved, safe and seen, and are able to recognize and provide this to others more easily as well. Women also tend to connect with each other quicker than they do with the opposite sex due to a basic mutual understanding that doesn’t exist between men and women. Because women understand how the female mind works, it results in closeness between lesbians that’s much stronger than it is in male-female relationships. Again, this closeness varies from case to case. But in general, closeness leads to comfort which leads to commitment – and fasts. 

But the real question is – is it okay to become another “U-hauler”? Once again, this differs per couple! Perhaps you’ve searched for love for years, and are thrilled to have finally found “the one”. So thrilled that you want to sprint straight to the finish line, so to speak. Maybe you’re being financially savvy and would rather move in with your girlfriend than pay for two places. Or perhaps you just want to marry your best friend! Either way, the pace of your relationship and your reasoning behind it doesn’t really matter. If the way things are progressing feels right for the both of you (honesty is key!) and you’ve got the same vision, there is no such as moving too fast. Spoken like a true lesbian!

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You might be familiar with the traditional lesbian pride flag… but did you know there are multiple versions? Take a look!

Most of you are probably familiar with the “traditional” pride flag – the rainbow one that symbolizes the LGBT pride movement (see below). This flag was designed by Gilbert Baker in 1977 and was said to represent sex, life, healing, sun, nature, magic, serenity, and the spirit – things that, according to Baker, everyone shares. 

But the LGBT culture has come a long way since the 70s. In fact, the acronym has now expanded to LGBTTQQIAAP+, and numerous new flags have been added to represent each of the different groups.

The flag that most commonly symbolizes the “L” in the acronym, or lesbian culture, is comprised of a series of pink stripes, all in different hues (see above). This flag, also affectionately known as the “lipstick lesbian pride flag” is rejected by some lesbians, since its origins are more supportive of femme lesbians than the community as a whole.

There are, however, different versions of the lesbian pride flag, each adorning different symbols. Interlocking female symbols, for instance, have been a symbol of lesbianism since the 1970s. The meaning behind this one is pretty self-explanatory.

The black triangle (my personal favorite), derives from Nazi concentration camps, where women wore it if they’d been deemed “asocial” by the guards. Typically, this included feminists, lesbians, prostitutes, and women who refused to bear children. Today, it symbolizes unity among these women, particularly lesbians. Finally, we have the labrys. This double-bladed ax was typically used as a battle weapon in early female-run societies, such as matriarchal communities and ancient Greece. Today, it represents strength, independence, and empowerment among lesbians. If you’re in the process of choosing a flag that most adequately represents your identity, my advice is to choose the one that resonates with you. There is no right or wrong decision!

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