Hi Lovelys
It's Lovely
HERSELF
Today is Sunday and I thought I will write about my first experiences in dating a pansexual girl.
As you all can see on my Instagram channel which is by the linked here, just click on the picture
I am pansexual and as a recap let's talk about the definition of pansexual again.
What is a pansexual person?
A literal dictionary definition of bisexuality, due to the prefix bi-, is a sexual or romantic attraction to two sexes (males and females), or to two genders (men and women). Pansexuality, however, composed with the prefix pan-, is the sexual attraction to a person of any sex or gender.
Meaning I am attracted to anyone regardless of their gender and this is also the reason why I dated so many people before who had a different kind of sexual orientation. I dated people who are straight, bisexual, homosexual, and I also had an experience with a transgender already but I will talk about this experience in a different post in the future.
Today I wanted to talk about the experiences I had in dating a pansexual girl. First of all, I have to say that I rarely know and meet people who are pansexual, I do not know why but I have not met so many people yet in my life who are the same as me but I am talking to some on social media which give me actually a good feeling because ones you know that you are not alone anymore it is a different kind of sexual experience also. And that is how I met my first one the only pansexual girl I dated before.
She was from Amsterdam and she was working at the same company as I did before. We were both living in Germany and had the exact same way to go to work and that is by bike. So it was during the winter season in Germany, where it is super cold and this year we also had a lot of snow. I think if I remember that correctly it was in 2012. So I was riding my bike in my leather outfit fully in leather pants and leather jacket because it was cold as I said before. We entered the office and while walking up the stairs she said "you look hot in those leather outfit" and I said, "wow really you think so, thank you very much".
After being at work for the first 90 minutes I took a break and I went to the rest and coffee room where we were able to sit down and relax a bit from work. I took my break and eventually she would enter the room as well. She was preparing her coffee to drink and sat down next to me slapping with her hand on my leather pants. She did that in the way like it was normal for her and she asked me how's work and I said it is just fine. I added you know customers are a bit more stressed during the winter the season. Oh by the way I was working for a TV shop channel before. She said I think so and she looked at my leather pants, looked into my eyes, and that was the moment I started to become interested in her and she felt the same way.
Three days later we had almost the same experience again but this time I said to her that I need to ask her something so please wait for me after our work is done.
She was waiting outside the office. She was a tall Dutch girl, a bit curvy, but at this time I did not care about the way she looked. All that I wanted to know if she is interested in having a date with me, so I took all courage together and asked her if she wants to have dinner together with me. Oh yeah sure why not she sad and I was surprised because normally people would answer me by saying no or I am busy.
We went to her favorite restaurant and ate her favorite meal there. We also drank some hot chocolate and she asked about how I found out that I am into leather and I told her the story and she said wow that is a really nice story. I am not sure why switched over to the question asking about sexual preferences at this time immediately, but I was not shy to answer to her that I do not have any preferences and I can date whoever I want which gives me the opportunity to be free in my choices. She said I am the same. At this time I had no idea that there was a specific term for that, my best friend told me a year later that this means that I am pansexual, and I thought what I am like a panda bear? :D
So we had a couple of dates together but there was something missing. What I found out for myself is that I am pan and I am having a hard time letting people into my life. I was attracted to her and she was to me but the final and last step never happened. We kissed, we danced together through the streets of the town where I was living but we never had that feeling to come closer together. Is that a thing pan people make special and different from others. I did not find out yet, to be honest.
After dating for like 4 weeks she said to me that I am a really nice person and that I am special not only because of the way dressing up in leather, but she told me that she cannot be in a relationship with me and she added that if she might break my heart. Of course, I asked her to be more specific but she can't she said and run away. We were still working together for another month, then she left the office and I never ever saw her again.
For me having dated her was really important to find out more about being a pansexual girl because it was easier to start a conversation with her, it felt easier to just hang out and to let our butterflies, which I am sure we had both, fly in our stomach. Dating a pansexual girl changed my view of dating people at all. I learned to be more natural, to be real, and to play a role I have to leave some you become closer to the person. I learned that being open and honest is the best way, to impress but not too much, to be who you are is the most important thing. She was open-minded, not complicated, and very easy to handle if we are not talking about the ending.
This was my experience in dating a pansexual girl and after that, I never ever dated another pan person anymore. She was the only one and that is why I remember her so clearly still, 8 years later. It was an experience I do not want to miss and that thought me a lot about how to approach people and how to talk to them while dating.
This was the story I wanted to share with you today.
If you liked that story feel free to share it with other people as well, maybe it helps them a bit.
Have a great Sunday and talk to you on Tuesday,
ooo, Jade
